Dysfunctional family test
Is Your Family Dysfunctional? A Simple Test to Check
For each statement, rate how often it applies to your family on a scale of 0-3:
0 = Never
1 = Rarely
2 = Sometimes
3 = Often
Add up your score at the end, and I’ll give you a quick way to interpret it. Grab a pen or just tally in your head—let’s see what’s up with your family dynamic.
Dysfunctional Family Test
My family constantly criticizes me or others.
Yelling is a normal way we communicate.
Problems get met with silence instead of discussion.
Someone’s always blamed instead of owning up.
Guilt trips like “After all I’ve done” are common.
My privacy or personal space gets invaded.
We pretend everything’s fine despite obvious issues.
Addiction (alcohol, drugs, etc.) disrupts our family.
I have to tiptoe around to avoid upsetting someone.
My choices get controlled or heavily judged.
My emotional or physical needs get ignored.
I’m told my feelings or memories aren’t real.
No one ever apologizes for mistakes.
There’s always some kind of drama brewing.
Personal boundaries don’t exist—I’m tangled in everyone’s stuff.
Fights blow up fast and rarely get resolved.
There are unspoken rules I’m expected to follow.
My successes or struggles get no real support.
Love feels conditional, like I have to earn it.
There’s a constant tension, even in quiet moments.
Scoring
Total your points (0-60): Add up all your answers.
0-10: Pretty functional—every family has hiccups, but yours seems solid.
11-20: Some dysfunction creeping in—might be specific issues worth noticing.
21-40: Moderate dysfunction—patterns could be stressing you out.
41-60: High dysfunction—things might feel chaotic or draining a lot of the time.
Comment below, which one of these hits you the hardest?
