Visiting Your Girlfriend or In-Law parents? Ask them these 5 questions
Meeting your girlfriend’s parents—or your future in-laws—can be nerve-wracking. Will they like you? Will the conversation be awkward? Will they ask a million questions about your job, future plans, or how you intend to take care of their daughter?
Instead of sitting there waiting to be grilled, flip the script! Take charge and you be the one to ask the questions. Not only will this make you look confident and mature, but it will also help you build a real connection with them. Here are five solid questions to break the ice and keep the conversation flowing.
1. "How did you guys meet?"
First of all, break the ice by showing interest in their lives first! This is a classic conversation starter, and trust me, it can take up the entire dinner. Parents love sharing their love story—whether it’s a sweet romantic tale, a hilarious accident, or something totally unexpected. This question also helps lighten the mood and sets a positive tone for the night.
2. "What qualities do you admire most in each other?"
Start by asking your girlfriend’s mom what she admires most about her husband, then ask her dad the same about his wife. This will actually give you insight into what her parents value in a relationship. Plus, the mom’s answer might hint at the qualities she expects you to have, and the dad’s answer can reveal what traits your girlfriend may have inherited.
3. "What’s your proudest or most memorable moment with [GF/Wife]?"
Every parent loves bragging about their kids. This question gives them a chance to share stories about your girlfriend/wife that you may have never heard before. It also shows that you genuinely care about her and respect their role in raising her.
4. "What was [GF/wife] like growing up? Was she an angel or a troublemaker?"
This one is always fun. You’ll get to hear about your girlfriend/wife’s childhood, embarrassing stories, and maybe even some wild moments she never told you about. It’s a great way to get everyone laughing and ease any tension.
5. "What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about raising a family?"
This is your deep, thoughtful question. It shows maturity and interest in their life experiences. Parents (especially dads) love giving advice, and this opens the door for them to share their wisdom with you. Plus, it gives you valuable insight into the family dynamic and what’s important to them.
Final Thoughts
Meeting the parents doesn’t have to feel like an interrogation. By asking these questions, you take control of the conversation, make a great impression, and maybe even win some major brownie points. Just be yourself, stay confident, and let the conversation flow naturally.
What’s the most awkward or funniest moment you’ve had meeting a girlfriend’s parents? Drop it in the comments!
