when your parents threaten divorce
Have your parents ever brought up getting a divorce in the middle of a fight? 😞 If so, I know exactly how you feel. In this post, I’m going to share my experience of growing up in a home where my parents constantly threatened to divorce each other—and why you shouldn’t let it consume you with worry.
The Fear of Divorce 💔
My parents fought almost every single day, but it wasn’t until I became a teenager that they started throwing the word “divorce” around. The first time I heard it, I was scared, anxious, and overwhelmed with questions:
Where would I live? 🏡
Would my dad take me in? (I really didn’t want to live with him.) 😟
Would I be able to see my relatives (especially Grandma) if I stayed with my mom? 👵
Do I need to change schools and be forced to make new friends?👫
What would happen to my dog? 🐶
As an only child, my dog was like my sister—my companion, my protector, my best friend. 🐾 There were nights when I couldn’t sleep, so I would go outside, sit with her, pet her, and cry, not knowing if I would lose her in a potential split.
Maybe you’re going through something similar. Maybe you’re feeling anxious about losing the life you know—your home, your friends, your routine. But I want to tell you something important: it’s not as real as it feels. 💡
Why You Shouldn’t Worry 😊
Looking back, my parents never actually got divorced. And I realized something: some people thrive on fighting. My parents would escalate their arguments, threatening each other just to gain the upper hand. But deep down, they couldn’t live without each other. As much as they fought, they always stayed together. ❤️🔥
I’m not saying this will be true for every family, but if your parents constantly threaten divorce but never follow through, chances are, it’s just their toxic way of dealing with conflict. Until it actually happens, don’t let it consume you.
I know it’s messed up that they’re putting you through this, but stressing over something that may never happen is like buying a lottery ticket and losing sleep over how you’ll spend the winnings—it’s just not worth it. 🎫❌
So, hang in there. Focus on what you can control, lean on the people (or pets) who bring you comfort, and remember: their fights are not your burden to carry. 💙
