Living with a hoarder

Does your home or garage feel like a storage unit for stuff no one asked for?

Maybe your parents can’t say no. Free couches from friends, hand-me-downs from cousins, old electronics from coworkers, or random furniture left on the curb. Everything ends up in your living room, garage, hallway… and somehow, even your bedroom.

If you’re living in clutter that isn’t even yours, you’re not alone. I’m right there with you — and it’s exhausting.

Why Hoarding Happens (It’s Not Just Junk Obsession)

🧠 1. Emotional Attachment

Some objects feel like memories or part of someone’s identity — even if they’re falling apart.

“This belonged to your uncle. We can’t throw it away.”

😰 2. Fear of Needing It Later

As long as it’s functional, they hold onto stuff “just in case” they’ll need it someday.

“What if we need another toaster? This one kind of works.”

🧩 3. Struggles with Decisions

Choosing what to keep vs. toss gets overwhelming, so they keep everything.

💭 4. “I Can Fix This” Mentality

They believe everything can be reused or repurposed — someday.

“This box could be a cool shelf one day!”

💸 5. money attachment

Throwing things away feels like throwing away money — they are attached to the money value spent on the item (even if it was 10 years ago).

“I bought this Nokia for $800 20 years ago, how can you tell me to recycle it for nothing?”

How to Deal When You’re Drowning in Clutter

✅ 1. Suggest Donating

It’s easier for them to let go if they know it’s going to someone or some organization who needs it.

💻 2. Help Sell or List Online

They might part with stuff if it earns money or gets a second life. Facebook Marketplace, eBay, Craigslist, or OfferUp are great avenues.

🏷️ 3. Garage Sale It

Make it fun and low-pressure — “Let’s just see what happens.”

🚪 4. move out

Sometimes, the healthiest thing you can do is create space — literally.

If you’re old enough and in a place financially or emotionally where moving out is possible, do it. Whether it's a dorm, roommate setup, or staying with another relative, having your own clean, calm space can be life-changing.

Final Thoughts 💭

You didn’t choose this — but you are handling it. Living with a hoarder is tough, but you're not alone. Start small, protect your peace, and remember: it's okay to want something different.