fighting with your parents is useless

If you grew up in a dysfunctional home or still struggle with a toxic relationship with your parents, I want you to hear this loud and clear: It’s not your fault.

Parents don’t change just because we wish they would. They change when they decide to, and that only happens in three ways:

They Find Faith or a Higher Purpose
Sometimes, people need something bigger than themselves to shift their mindset. Whether it’s God, the universe, Buddha, Jesus, Allah—whatever resonates with them—having faith can push them to focus on something beyond their own struggles and ego.

They Invest in Self-Growth
Personal development is key. Reading books, attending seminars, or working on their habits, finances, and relationships can help them grow. But they have to want to improve—not just for you, but for themselves.

They Change Their Environment
The people we surround ourselves with shape who we become. If your parents are stuck in toxic cycles, they might need to change their friends, family influences, or even their romantic relationships to truly transform.

But here’s the hardest truth: No matter how much you change, you can’t change them. You can set boundaries. You can heal. You can create a better life for yourself. But their growth? That’s on them.

So, how do you stop the endless fights? Accept that their change is not your responsibility. Focus on your own healing, protect your peace, and build the future you deserve. 💙