Do You Like Them or Love Them?
When it comes to relationships, it’s easy to confuse liking someone with truly loving them. As Jay Shetty once said, “If you like a flower, you pluck it. If you love a flower, you water it and nurture it.” In other words, liking someone is often about what they can do for you, while love is about how you grow together.
So how can you tell if you just like someone or if it’s something deeper? Ask yourself these three questions:
1. Could You Stay in the Relationship Without Sex for 6 months?
Physical attraction is important, but real love goes beyond that. Imagine if circumstances forced you into a long-distance relationship where you couldn’t be physically close for half a year. Or maybe there was a health issue where you guys were not allowed to be intimate for a longer period of time. Would you still want to be with them? Would the emotional (or spiritual) connection be enough? If your answer is a strong yes, that’s a sign of something real.
2. The Blind Test: Would You Stay Without Seeing Them?
Imagine you could only communicate through phone calls and texts—no FaceTime, no pictures, no in-person dates. Would you still feel the same connection? Try this out by going two weeks with just texts and phone calls. If it’s love, your bond would actually strengthen during this time. If your bond weakens without physical presence, it might be more about attraction than deep love.
3. Do You Want to Change Them or Accept Them?
Every person has flaws or habits that might bother you. But how you handle them says a lot about whether you love them or just like them. Do you constantly try to change them, hoping they’ll stop? Or do you focus on accepting them and adjusting your mindset? Love means embracing someone for who they are—not just who you want them to be.
Final Thoughts
Liking someone is easy. Loving someone requires patience, growth, and a deep emotional connection. If these questions made you think twice about your relationship, it might be time to reflect on what you truly want. Love isn’t just about how someone makes you feel—it’s about how you show up for each other, even when things aren’t perfect.
Would you pass this test? Let me know in the comments! 👇💬
